Tuesday, 28 June 2011

Know yourself. Develop yourself into someone you can truly love.

Nowadays false validation is in style. Persons will big up something truly horrid and laugh at you behind your back. This is why confidence is essential. Whatever you know yourself to be, whoever you are and however you are, is something that should never be swayed by the public. Love yourself from within.

Friday, 17 June 2011


(*scotch bonnet is also known as habanero chili)

everyone has a little spice inside
and surely cayenne kicks though her red is mellow
she has a way of making paprika jealous
but a scotch bonnet slut will only attract certain fellows
everyone needs a little spice inside.

i admit it and some wish to hang me from the moon
make a spectacle of me with a silken noose
sex is everywhere, practiced, recorded, rehearsed
so why do you cringe as though i just cursed?
chilies and scotch bonnet seeds
ever rampant in the streets
people judge them but they always have enough to eat
And multitudes called vegetarians secretly miss meat
and crowds of christians play the same charades
but on quiet days
when it rains
they wish they had that pepper whole
floating around their yellow bowl...
Everyone needs a little spice inside.

Selena Dodson, June 16th 2011

Friday, 10 June 2011



Just thought I would share this with you though I DID NOT make it. Actually it was made by my husband's partner in fitness crimes - Corey Springer.

High protein and low carb is definitely the way to go if muscle is what you are looking to develop and fat is what you are looking to obliterate. Healthy carbs are essential in the daily diet but we really do overdo it on the sugar and most of us look like we do! Just wanted to showcase these Tuna Burgers Corey made and topped with Turkey Bacon. They are packing a hard protein punch and I bet they tasted great. For the full recipe you can contact Apollo Fitness Barbados - http://apollofitnessbarbados.blogspot.com/
If you are or will be in Barbados you can message me and I will tell you how to come to Barefoot Boot camp and get a Sunday burn that will change you for the better! They are very affordable and definitely give you a good, fun workout that you can be proud to conquer.

Monday, 6 June 2011

CUPCAKES and friendship

Hi Folks,

Hope you are well! Well my favorite sweet thing to bake is cupcakes and I am running a special this month with some of the ones from my signature collection. I'm planning to open a store but I can't give anything away. Anyways this is not about shoes or purses or any sort of incredible sugar work that is more fun to see than eat. This is about a happy tongue and a smiling tummy.  I've got all sorts of greatness, from Rum n Raisin to blueberry cheesecake. Here's a pic:

The thought I'd like to leave with you for today is this: Beware of so called friends who never can do anything to help you but are always hanging around. They may actually hate you and be glad when life doesn't go as planned! A true friend may not always be around but will always have your best interests at heart whether you like it or not!

No matter about what the future may bring, live your best life now, do not harbor people that you do not truly need and who may cause stress and heartache that will speed up your death! Forget instant gratification and go for the long term and more meaningful option... except when it comes to cupcakes, ya gotta make the exception there :)

Wednesday, 1 June 2011

Self Esteem and Hard Times

Self Esteem: LOVE YASELF!!!

C'mon it is time for the blame game to cease.

Daddy issues. Mommy issues. Magazine ideals. Past broken hearts... PLEASE SPARE ME.

Don't most murderers have issues? Doesn't mean they didn't do the crime and don't deserve the time - they do, because they made an adult decision and they have to be punished and also hopefully learn from their mistakes.

In the same fashion your issue is not unique and you should not use it as a crutch to help you walk when you could have been running a long time ago. That is a waste of your life. Yes it is difficult, but pursue what you want unrelentingly and with passion. See it in your mind. You will catch it.

(Now I am not talking about material things which could lead to lady Gaga's figurative "fame monster", I am talking about intangible things with endless worth, like love, good health... the money you may believe in could carry you very far away from goodness. Sometimes you do not get what you think you want but you get what you don't know you need. All I am saying is many people go on and on about the "Universe" and wealth, but money still can't buy life or stop the pain of others and therefore a caring person will need much more than money to feel fulfilled. We often see what we don't have as the main milestone but upon conquering it we realize we are still in want spiritually. Of course money is a great help, but it should not be your main or only goal.

Please read the bible story about Jesus and the rich man that allowed his material things to come between him becoming his follower which would have meant priceless intangible wealth and use this story as a parable to get my point.)

Any goal that you have can be reached. Trust that persons in harder situations than you are in have seen miracles. You can lose the weight. You can own the business. You can raise the child. You can find the love and keep it. But you must believe that you can and act like it and stop casting negativity on your dreams and blaming the past. Just because your father wasn't there for you doesn't mean that you have an excuse to be a slut. No, it means it will be more remarkable to see just how beautifully you have grown despite having only one parent to support you.

Nowadays I am hearing everyone debating right and wrong for the slightest little things. Anything that makes you self sufficient and allows you to feel good about YOU without needing the ego to be boosted by others is GOOD. Because our emotions are attached to our well being things that give lasting good feelings are good. Things that give an immediate high but have many negative effects are usually very BAD. Some bad things have no high at all but those are usually not debated.

 A person can develop and need no one but themselves and God. After that all other forms of goodness are easy to find and all forms of badness are easy to sort out and throw away. If you try to build a relationship with yourself as the foundation and you are full of cracks it is very very hard. Also you may feel like accepting someone full of cracks because you may think you guys can work it out, but the relationship you build will not withstand the emotional hurricanes that will surely come.

Many women make themselves almost impossible to love. Many men act as though they are so great just to hide inner emptiness and longing to fit into circles that they need not be in.

Be honest with yourself about the good and the bad in you and be honest about where you are confidence-wise. Then make a pact with yourself to improve as much as you can day by day. Live clean and keep positive and send out that goodness. Do not let an ignorant person with a stinking attitude ruin your day. Do not blame others for everything that goes wrong in YOUR life. Take responsibility and know that you will be beautiful to someone. That you are lovable by anyone. That you have human rights and deserve every good man, dog, child, experience that may come your way. Do not see what other people have and covet it, take steps to get your own and work at it with a pure heart. You will win and everything that you wish for is at the finish line waiting for you so hurry up!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yt4eCjRU-WI - The Blame Game - Kanye and John Legend. Real feelings. (edited version)


Count your blessings during tough times, that is the only way not to become completely self absorbed and start to feel as though the world is on your shoulders. No honey, if the world was on your shoulders you'd be dead, you will never know how it feels to shoulder the world, don't even go there. Sometimes things seem unbearable. What sort of life were you living before your ordeal? What are you learning? What sort of life will you be living AFTER your ordeal??? Will it change you for the better if you should get through it?

Say a prayer but do not lie to yourself or to God because lies don't reach him anyway, use your ordeal to help you become a better individual, after all no matter what we are going through our time on this earth is short and we must use it to gain depth and clarity. To become as close to goodness as is possible. It seems to me most people expect goodness though if you analyze many of them they do not project it. Do what you can to be a good person every day and you will see it manifest itself in ways you never expected! Often times we may be disappointed by those we expected to elevate us, but we receive the same elevation from complete strangers because He is not sleeping, but self importance and negativity will surely make it seem like He is!

Have a wonderful day. Good food to come!